tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post1966212361601175372..comments2023-06-13T07:07:29.903-07:00Comments on The Other Side: Wise WomenKamihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-17784259977973971372009-05-21T11:03:56.942-07:002009-05-21T11:03:56.942-07:00For me it was easier, my eggs were such crap that ...For me it was easier, my eggs were such crap that DE was the only course open if I wanted to bear a child. <br /><br />DE worked for me. I have to tell you that over time, the genetic stuff has mattered less and less. I love my boys. I am their Mother. The empty spot has been filled.Not on Firehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00905351447791950134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-33717054083695608232009-05-20T09:08:02.376-07:002009-05-20T09:08:02.376-07:00I'm sort of in the same place, but only going for ...I'm sort of in the same place, but only going for number 1. I want to know if it is over with my eggs, espcially since I've never had a 'real' chance because of our BT, but at the same time, I'm ready to jsut be done. I wonder if having LB makes it easier to go 'back to the well' since it will be a different kind of loss than it was before she was in your life.sarahhttp://www.dreamsandfalsealarms.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-24528782009972174942009-05-20T08:42:04.226-07:002009-05-20T08:42:04.226-07:00Awwwww....I be that made Daddy's whole year.Awwwww....I be that made Daddy's whole year.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-81568292099375481032009-05-20T06:51:48.024-07:002009-05-20T06:51:48.024-07:00ohhhhh you didn't tell me about that, I bet Brad f...ohhhhh you didn't tell me about that, I bet Brad felt like he was on top of the world, he was more importand then mommy and the boob, thas really something when your the dad. <br />OK so yes I do think that if you use your eggs and it does work then you will finally see what your genentic child does look like and thats something, I think most people have dreamt about what their child wouldlook like, but it will not erase all you ill feelings and jaded thoughts becasue none of it will have happend in that perfect way or even after one easy IVF cycle. IF you do think it will bring you some closure then of course it is worth it, butIknow the way you think I and I"m not sure the closure will be enough, you will always be on the "what if's" but still if its something that you want and it will drive DR.RE a little more crazy then do it, maybe he can buy his kids another swimming pool. I"m just saying do it if you think it will help, but as you can see although LB has fixed not having a baby so that is is beyond wonderful you are still jaded and angry regardless, so if it worked having your own won't fix that part of it, but I totally get you and if it were free I would probably be doing it again along with you, or if either of us had good insurance.Leah Maya Benjaminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18167997949670119040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-89363094617248666252009-05-20T05:45:22.975-07:002009-05-20T05:45:22.975-07:00I sooooo agree with your friend who suggested that...I sooooo agree with your friend who suggested that having another baby using your own eggs wouldn't necessarily *fix* everything, as there are bigger issues after all you've been through. I totally feel that, personally. I say go with your gut ... which is what it sounds like you're doing already. :-)Irish Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222992447645337845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-5169089941073243512009-05-19T20:14:45.056-07:002009-05-19T20:14:45.056-07:00I have no words of wisdom that you haven't already...I have no words of wisdom that you haven't already thought about. For me, I did make that line in the sand and moved onto DE. I wont allow myself to doubt or look back. I have to be convinced that my eggs are over. Otherwise I could not move onto De. Now, your situation is the opposite of mine because I have a genetic child....so maybe that made it easier for me to do DE since I already have the genetic link thing? I don't miss it with baby #2 as much as someone who doesn't have it becasue i do have it with one child. <br /><br />While, for me, I agree with all the advice about moving on the one that really struck me is the 8K bringing you decades of peace. Even though I'm all about sucking it up and facing reality....that one made an impression. <br /><br />So there....I'm of no help whatsoever.Peevemehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15380650452145936082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-31170982280765663902009-05-19T19:59:26.858-07:002009-05-19T19:59:26.858-07:00What a sweet story of LB falling asleep on daddy. ...What a sweet story of LB falling asleep on daddy. Did you get a pic of that? <br />Whatever you decide about the cycle I hope you are comfortable with and that it's a positive experience.battynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240029154165501340noreply@blogger.com