tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post4504227920918773292..comments2023-06-13T07:07:29.903-07:00Comments on The Other Side: OB appointment #2: 12 weeks, 1 day (detailed u/s description)Kamihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-5465030893079190122011-04-08T10:35:41.606-07:002011-04-08T10:35:41.606-07:00Well, I can honestly say I am not as bitter and an...Well, I can honestly say I am not as bitter and angry as I was when I wrote this post almost 3 years ago. Time is healing those infertility wounds.<br /><br />I think my fellow infertiles understand what I was saying - that it doesn't matter what those other women had gone though and it is my perception of what they have gone though (likely very little trauma) that caused and sometimes still causes the pain. The anger and hate is a way to protect my wounded heart from feeling sadness at the losses.<br /><br />I do not apologize for my feelings. Yes, some of those people may have struggled to get or keep a pregnancy. Odds are they didn't, but it is possible. Again, what mattered is my perception and my feelings of jealously and inadequacy that were brought up.<br /><br />It is also not lost on me that other infertiles look at me and may be envious of how easily I got pregnant - which is not true, of course.<br /><br />In the end, I was always polite to these other women and I am quite sure they had no idea what I was thinking. No harm done and it helped me survive those moments.Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-61306469352851141452011-03-25T10:04:54.299-07:002011-03-25T10:04:54.299-07:00I definitely agree with Anonymous August 2010....H...I definitely agree with Anonymous August 2010....How can you actually look at someone and have the audacity to assume that their journey was an easy one? You can not be that conceded and naive to think that you are the only one who has had a difficult journey. Your complete disregard for others extremely offends me as I'm sure does those "easily knocked up" women that you refer to in your statement. Perhaps you should realize that other people in this world....and probably that waiting room...have gone through just as much struggle as you before you go posting rude and ignorant statements.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-91697388747721847242010-08-18T05:50:29.984-07:002010-08-18T05:50:29.984-07:00I know this is old.
I'm so happy you are open...I know this is old. <br />I'm so happy you are open and honest in this. <br />It took me a while to get pregnant the third time and we thought there was secondary infertility problems.. It was scary, because I am young and so is my husband. Meanwhile, my sister who is a meth user and has had 2 kids taken away and an abortion goes and gets knocked up again just 3 months after her youngest was born! Made me so mad...<br />Anyway, I must tell you though that while you shoot daggers with your eyes at the 'easily knocked up' women, did you ever stop to think that maybe they had their own long and painful journey? Or, are you possibly the only one in a room of women who had problems getting pregnant? I hope you and other women who become pregnant in the future realize that you can't look at someone and see a pregnant bump and immediately assume their journey was quick and painless... and you may actually have more in common than you think..Please try to not be so bitter :/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-90546356707072115382007-12-10T07:07:00.000-08:002007-12-10T07:07:00.000-08:00I do want to gently remind you that it's not neces...I do want to gently remind you that it's not necessarily always a choice between terminating a pregnancy and living with a severely disabled child. There's another situation: Terminating a pregnancy when the child has no chance of living outside the womb. In that case, you're making the choice between the child dying now, dying later in the pregnancy or dying right after birth.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08514262423005456861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-90890767597253374672007-12-05T06:19:00.000-08:002007-12-05T06:19:00.000-08:00Kami, glad to hear that all is well. Your doctor ...Kami, glad to hear that all is well. Your doctor sounds very understanding too. Good luck with the midwife appointment too.meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113578396438869433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-56689464654283830852007-12-04T09:35:00.000-08:002007-12-04T09:35:00.000-08:00It seems like your OB is doing his best to be sens...It seems like your OB is doing his best to be sensitive to your feelings- kudos to him. <BR/><BR/>I admit that when I am waiting to see the CNM or OB (and the wait is generally 2 doggone hours) I am shooting laser beams from my eyes at all the Easily Knocked Up. It doesn't seem to change no matter how round my belly grows...MrsSpockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10792687516201324640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-36258954811236458332007-12-04T03:25:00.000-08:002007-12-04T03:25:00.000-08:00Glad to hear that your appointment went well. Tha...Glad to hear that your appointment went well. Thank you for sharing the details, which were not tedious at all.<BR/><BR/>I wish you an uneventful and happy pregnancy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-16995107704741223872007-12-03T21:19:00.000-08:002007-12-03T21:19:00.000-08:00Kami, Your waiting room experience reminded me tha...Kami, Your waiting room experience reminded me that going to prenatal yoga might be more of a drag than I anticipated. Ugh. I am thrilled to qualify for the "club." Just not sure I will EVER feel like (or even want to be) a member!!<BR/><BR/>Woohoo on seeing those tiny hands and feet!! Actual size, but I am sure she seems much bigger. . .<BR/><BR/>XO,<BR/>RJRJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02642589131964399043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-5692453478601673502007-12-03T18:29:00.000-08:002007-12-03T18:29:00.000-08:00I'm glad to see your appointment went well. I cont...I'm glad to see your appointment went well. I continue to pray for a healthy pregnancy for you. <BR/><BR/>Can't wait to hear about your next appointment.Babe*https://www.blogger.com/profile/00641243136166677174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-56184961941873630712007-12-03T09:43:00.000-08:002007-12-03T09:43:00.000-08:00congratulations on entering your second trimester!...congratulations on entering your second trimester! How wonderful that everything looks good, I’m happy that you and your husband got to see so much movement – it must have been a big relief.<BR/><BR/>thank you for such an honest and eloquent post that voices some of the things i too have felt when sitting at the obgyn office waiting for my appointment. I can say that even as I went in last week for my 27 week visit the feelings were/are still there and I don’t know when/if they will go away…by the same token I know I don’t want to forget everything we’ve been through to get here either.stacybhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287587962566164235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-47689585641395179982007-12-03T09:06:00.000-08:002007-12-03T09:06:00.000-08:00Glad to hear it went well. Despite, well, despite...Glad to hear it went well. Despite, well, despite how hard this all is.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-12689703157057026672007-12-03T06:50:00.000-08:002007-12-03T06:50:00.000-08:00Do I detect that you feel she's a she?Ooooh. This...Do I detect that you feel she's a she?<BR/><BR/>Ooooh. This is so fun. From the sidelines, anyway.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-12981688586813159822007-12-03T06:27:00.000-08:002007-12-03T06:27:00.000-08:00Oh, wow!! It sounds like an appointment w/so many...Oh, wow!! It sounds like an appointment w/so many ups and downs.Happyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14335137784267157167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-30698577342153758512007-12-03T05:34:00.000-08:002007-12-03T05:34:00.000-08:00Dr. Wonderful sounds GREAT! Congrats on seeing a ...Dr. Wonderful sounds GREAT! <BR/><BR/>Congrats on seeing a wondeful happy baby :-)singletraceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15361586713986688123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-64229068206386689922007-12-02T20:38:00.000-08:002007-12-02T20:38:00.000-08:00So much great info in this post!I have a confessio...So much great info in this post!<BR/><BR/>I have a confession. Your anger at the pregnant ladies makes me feel a little relieved. My husband is so annoyingly well adjusted and he doesn't understand (or agree with) my disdain for the fertile masses. I know your Journey has been much longer than mine and you have more of a reason for your feelings. But for you to admit that you have them makes me feel like I'm not such an abnormal freak/bitch. Thank you for your candor. <BR/><BR/>And congrats on getting all good news.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-88678418060514090412007-12-02T19:06:00.000-08:002007-12-02T19:06:00.000-08:00I am glad that your Dr is so gentle with you and y...I am glad that your Dr is so gentle with you and your needs.AwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193753530280373065.post-35166413480029342332007-12-02T18:42:00.000-08:002007-12-02T18:42:00.000-08:00Kami, I am very happy to hear that bub is ok in th...Kami, I am very happy to hear that bub is ok in there.<BR/><BR/>You're coping very well with facing stressful events and situations.<BR/><BR/>Deciding what care and tests to have can be really, really tough.<BR/><BR/>xx<BR/><BR/>JGeohdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09084396088622931768noreply@blogger.com